Growing Consciousness of Humanity

by Laurie Martin

We are in a big earth awakening, as many of you already have heard, they're calling it a quantum jump. It's being called a vibrational frequency of love, cooperation, unity, compassion, and a heart connection on a universal level.

We contribute to peace every time we decide to take an approach from love and understanding, when we choose peace versus ‘being right'. I had a coaching client who was presenting himself in a challenging defensive manner. He wouldn't sign or fill out my coaching paperwork. He challenged me on my religious views and my background. He challenged me on my education and training.

If I had felt the same defensive energy back, it wouldn't have helped my client. For me to help him feel more comfortable so he could relax and allow his defensive walls to melt away, I needed to have compassion for him, I needed to answer his questions in a confident relaxed manner so he could relax. When I responded back to him with a gentle confident manner, he softened. He realized I was not out to get him. He felt I was honest and sincere which allowed him to be open with me and communicate his life troubles and express his true nature.

Had I personalized his comments by telling myself he doesn't believe I'm capable, or any other negative self-talk, I may have responded back in a defensive reactive manner.

I didn't need to point out to him his behavior. He saw it himself. After the session he sent me an email thanking me for going with his flow and being flexible. He apologized for his behavior and told me he would contact me for future coaching sessions.

Keep in mind; we have all parts to us, and what we see in another person, we also have inside us. There are times when I'm sure I'm defensive too. I understood him, so I was able to smile and respond in a helpful way, which allowed him to relax.

Albert Einstein said, "We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them."

Think more about creating a higher vibrational frequency than making someone wrong. There are times when we react quickly to our emotions if we feel we are being attached, not respected or misunderstood. This is a good time to take a deep breath, be quiet, and have an inner dialogue. Observe yourself. How do you feel? Do you feel like you have to defend yourself? If so, ask yourself, "What are you insecure about”?

How can you look beyond the person's words or behavior and help them feel more comfortable or at ease? How can you look at this in a detached way? What is your new shift in perspective? Invite in compassion and see how you can take a more evolved approach. Each situation is different.

The more our intention is in the direction of creating peace versus being right, the quicker the process becomes. This doesn't mean to ignore our emotions. When we are confident in ourselves, we don't feel the need to defend ourselves and we are able to have our focus aligned to give the other person more of what they need, more of what their heart is calling out for than their words or body language.

Recently, while I was teaching a yoga class and we were sitting quiet breathing, grounding our energy, and all of a sudden I heard a loud cracking noise. I looked in the direction of the noise, and there was a new student whom I never saw before chewing and cracking her gum. I have never experienced this before in a yoga class.

My first thought was, "how annoying”, but I continued on, and then crack, crack. "Wow, how could she not know?”

I realized I had options. I could choose to continue to get annoyed and build up a big case on how rude she is (but that wouldn't of made the situation better) or I could find a space of compassion. I decided to try a more loving approach. I asked God to help me detach from the situation. I told myself maybe she has a medical condition and she had to chew gum or maybe she has no idea the gum is cracking that loud. I decided to get to know her.

When the opportunity presented itself, I asked her what her name was and where she was from. She was on a trip visiting for a few days and this was her very first yoga class. She was very nice! After our little exchange, I noticed the energy changed, I was not annoyed anymore nor did she crack her gum anymore! She said she was going to try to take one more class before she flies back home. Who knows, maybe she wanted to be noticed or more likely she was just nervous.

That experience allowed me to grow to another level of love and compassion. In the past, I may have wanted to judge her behavior as rude. I chose to create peace versus holding my ground and being right. It feels better.

Laurie Martin is an Author, Certified Life Coach, and Yoga Teacher For more information www.SmileAcrossYourHeart.com